One thing I took from Y’all West is something George M Johnson said about instead of coming out you are choosing to invite others in. Sharing a special something about yourself that matters. It’s a beautiful way to think about it.
I’ve thought about doing this for a while. It’s taken time for me to figure out innerly who I am. I spent most of my life pretending to myself that I was straight and well spoilers, but I’m definitely not.
The easier part that I have mentioned slightly is that I’m Demi-sexual which means I need an emotional connection with someone before I’m attracted to them. I blame that part for me taking so long to realize this second part, but I’m also pan-sexual. Feels strange to write it out. Yet, oddly I don’t feel the need to tear up the way I did when I was talking about it with one of my friends.
I’ve called myself straight for so long that I hid my truth to the point where I couldn’t see it despite it staring me dead in the face. I can be attracted to anyone regardless of gender and yes I do love masculinity and I’m a little more attracted to masculine presenting people, but I do find femininity to be attractive as well.
I have considered myself to be an ally for a long time. Just really supportive of the community and knowing that everyone deserves to love and express themselves in a way that aligns with the truth of who they are. It took me time to discover my truth and that’s ok.
So.. I guess all this is to say “Hi! My name is Tiana Wolfe and I’m Demi/pan sexual.” It feels good to say it to read the words and know them to be true. It feels like me.
Thank you all so much for being here. For being a part of my life’s journey. For supporting me. I feel so happy to be on a community where I feel comfortable enough to be open about my truth. You all are truly something special.
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I’m so happy for you, Tiana. I consider myself to be an ally as well, and have been for several years. As a Christian, raised Methodist, it was hard for me to reconcile different sexual preferences when I was growing up, based on what I learned in church. I’ve always considered myself to be straight, and didn’t know many LGBTQ+ people growing up. Now, I have several friends who are lesbian, gay, transgender, bisexual, pansexual, asexual, and demi-sexual. My 14-year-old niece likes girls rather than boys, and I think it’s wonderful she’s so aware of herself as a young teenager. I certainly didn’t have the same self-awareness and confidence when I was 12, 13, 14. Thank you for sharing your story!
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That’s super sweet! So cute to hear about your niece. It is nice to be able to know so early on. It’s been a journey for me to discover who I truly am and I’m finally happy to share the truth of it ☺️