Why New Years Resolutions Are BS

Now you may be wondering, Tiana ‘why in the world are you writing this? It’s no where near New Years. It’s the middle of the year. What are you doing?’ To which I would reply with simply, ‘I was thinking about this. I got angry. I had to share my thoughts with all of you.’

Anyway the why I am writing this is not the point. The point is that New Years comes every year and every year people choose to commit to being a ‘new me’. We all want to eat better, loose weight, read more, write more, drink more water, but the trouble is with all that good intention it’s easy to commit to it for a short while, but once you stop progressing it’s super easy to start regressing.

I feel like the time of the beginning of the year or the beginning of the month always seem like easy good times to think about and create goals, but as good as it is to have a plan to do better.. I think it might be more important to have a plan to keep going or to allow yourself to make adjustments when life happens. Changing small before changing big and being able to edit how you tackle your days as needed.

Figuring this out for myself was so crucial in my ability to keep bouncing back after giving in to temptation. I have given myself so many do-overs and changed things many different times until I had what I really wanted to do figured out. Right now, I know I have work M-F that doesn’t change. I know that I want to loose weight. That I want to be an author and never stop writing for this blog. I know that I want to be able to speak and read in other languages. Most importantly, I know I never want to stop reading.

These goals have become a set sort of aspirations for me. Every year at New Years, I try to create a way of me incorporating everything, but I always get the portion sizes wrong. When I stopped thinking of tackling goals as a specific thing that happens within a year or a month. When I stopped thinking about wanting a specific result that must happen in a specific amount of time or else I have failed completely and started to think about things day to day in the present. I began to make and see real progress.

Right now, I have begun to exercise. I write for this blog more then I ever have before. I’ve begun to really get a set understanding of Spanish (though I have a long way to go). I’ve written poetry everyday. I’ve began to write for my current WIP everyday and it is now at over 14,000 words which is something I’m very proud of. I have begun a mindfulness practice that has helped me stay calm and change my perspective. Plus, I’ve finally let myself have the time to actually sit down and watch a movie with my family instead of continuously watching YouTube video after YouTube video. My reading has been cut down to an hour a day, but honestly I have found that it is enough for me (plus I let myself read more when I find extra time).

I know that the way I do things now will change as I get older. I know that life will lead me to make time for more languages and more writing. One day, I hope that Writing would be my career. That instead of writing my 500 words in 30 minutes and having a goal to finish first drafts in 3 months might transform to me writing for an hour to several hours everyday and having it be my career. But for now I am making slow daily progress towards everything I would like to be. The important thing that it is progress. That it’s something I don’t give up on because I restart again and again each morning when I wake up. That I don’t look back on yesterday as success or failure, but look forward to what I can do today in this moment.

That is why I consider New Years resolutions to be BS. Yes they are inherently good. Yes for some they can even work, but for the majority of us changing our routines too quickly just doesn’t work. Allowing yourself to change gradually is super important. Figuring out what you want for yourself and making realistic small goals you can accomplish each day and being able to change them as needed without guilt is important. In this world there is no other time then now.

Thanks for reading! Let me know what you think about this down in the comments below. What are your dreams and aspirations?

-Till next time!

New Years Resolutions: 2018 (Let’s do this Thing!)

When 2018 began I was determined not to do this post because every time I declare my goals out into the universe they never succeed (almost as a rule). Pretty much all of my goals for 2017 were not successful and the fact that I wasn’t surprised about that fact is a problem in itself. However, as someone who has mentioned a lot of the issues and restarts in my blogging life (as well as my personal life) in 2017, I have decided I might as well explain my goals for this new year.. even if it is really to explain that I don’t have any real ones.

The thing is I have found that the problem with setting these huge goals to be healthier, do more reading, write more stuff, dedicate time to learning another language..etc. Etc. Is that when they pile on top of one another they become overbearingly unrealistic and even if you only fail one or two of your goals it feels like you failed and in 2018 I’m devoting myself to celebrate my wins, especially since 2017 was such a difficult year for me.

However I can’t help but hope that I do accomplish a few things this year if only to validate for myself that I can follow through:

FINISH A NOVEL: technically I have already authored a complete novel in my when I was 17. However, as someone who wants to be a published author in the future that one (not even fiction) novel isn’t going to cut it. I have so many ideas for novels in my head. Some of them ideas that I would be dying to read if I saw them in a bookstore off the premise alone. Right now I have one book in the works that I hope to put on Wattpad that will be a book that I write for myself for so many reasons. But the point is… I have started writing many a book I need this year to be the year I finish something.

Read a book a Day: this is something that I don’t want to declare because it is probably one of the most time consuming worst things I could want for myself, but I started before the end of 2017 and have kept it up for the past 11 Days And I just don’t want to give it up. It means that this blog will be mainly reviews for a long long time, but I will do my best to remain posting varying contents as much as I can.

One thing is for sure, I will NOT be doing any reading Challenges this year. Or any definitive challenges at all. Challenges tend to break my resolve when I don’t complete them and it does more harm then good. I need to read books as I feel like reading them, even if I am reading a book everyday. If I’m not happy with the books I’m reading I eventually give out and having something extra having me read certain books is another added weight that makes reading unenjoyable.

But most importantly, I’m going to let myself be. I’m not going to get angry at myself when I don’t accomplish everything I want to in a day. I’m not going to let myself be lost in wanting too many things. I am going to do instead of say and stop loosing myself in any planning.

If I complete any of these goals I will have good reason to be accomplished, but if I complete none of them the important thing is to celebrate the things I did do. I hope I never loose sight of that in the new year.

Thanks for reading! What are your New Years resolutions? What are your hopes for 2018?

-Till next time!

Ringing in the New Year Book Tag


Almost a week into 2017 and it is time that I finish off this week with a tag to officially ring in a brand new year of books. Thank you to Raven @ Dreamy Addictions for tagging me! Check out her lovely post here. She has such a wonderful layout and I love reading her posts. Thanks again Raven for tagging me!

Rules:

  • Link to the person who tagged you
  • Link to the creator of the tag – Rae @ Bookmark Chronicles
  • Share the tag image
  • Answer the questions below
  • Tag friends (or not if you don’t feel like it)


Best book and/or series that you’ve read in 2016

The best book I read in 2016 has to be A Northern Light by Jennifer Donnelly I can repeat enough how much this book made me feel. I can’t believe I had that book on my shelves for months before I read it. 


For best series completed in 2016 I have to go with the Splintered series by A.G. Howard this series had so much wonder hidden inside it. I am so glad I got to finish reading it in 2016. Plus I will forever be talking about how big a crush I have on Morpheus and how much I wish he was real. I love him so much!


Authors that you’ve recently found and would like to read more of in the new year

Libba Bray and Samantha Shannon

Libba Bray is the author of The Diviners a book that I am really excited to get into and I hope that along with that I get to read many more of her books in the future. 


I can’t wait to read The Bone Season by Samantha Shannon, I keep hearing so many good things about it and I hope it’s the start of reading many more of her books. 

Most anticipated book turned movie/tv show?

Murder on the Orient Express by Agatha Christie I loved this book when I read it in school and I am so excited that a new movie is coming out for it on November 22nd! It’s going to be fantastic to enjoy this books mysteries once more. 



Name a character that you wouldn’t mind sharing a kiss with at midnight (if there is one)

Mr. Rikkard Ambrose, he is the first person who came to mind and the one I have had the biggest crush on for the longest time. He is perfection in so many ways! I have to say that Storm & Silence by Robert Their is complete perfection and had me laughing aloud on more then one occasion. If you are so inclined read it off wattpad here. You will not regret it for a second. 



What’s on your TBR for 2017? (Top 5 will suffice if it’s an extremely long list!)

Random 5 being: 




How many books do you hope to read in 2016?

I am hoping to read at least 60 books. I think that it is a pretty reasonable goal. 



Will you participate in the Goodreads Reading Challenge or any others (PopSugar, Read the Books You Buy, etc.)

I am indeed participating in the Goodreads reading challenge as well as: 

The 2017 keyword reading challenge 

&

Winter Bookish Bingo! 
Any New Year’s Resolutions? (Bookish, blogging, and otherwise)

On the first of the year I had so many improvements to be made dancing in my head so I put them all in a New Years Resolutions post here. 


To tag or not to tag…. that is the question. 

Since it is already a week in the new year I am deciding not to tag anyone, but if you do wish to participate, feel free to do so! 

Once again have a Happy New Year! 

Thank you all for reading! Let me know your thoughts in the comments. 

-Till next time!

New Year’s Resolutions 2017


There is always room for improving our lives and I hope that in 2017 I continue to grow positively as an individual. 2016 came and went in a flash and it is now time for some new beginnings in this brand new year. 

My Goals for 2017: 

Reading: 

In 2016 I read over 50 books and I am really proud of that accomplishment. However, there are so many books out there just waiting to be devoured so I hope to read at least 60 books in 2017! Keeping in mind college and other goals I think that reading a few extra books is reasonable and obtainable. Let’s see how it goes. 

Reading diverse books has become more and more a priority in my life and I hope to be reading more diverse books in 2017. (I mostly get my books from thrift stores/giveaways so let’s see how lucky I get with some diverse reads) *fingers crossed* 

Blogging:

Short and sweet, I hope to continue to blog as much as I can every day, if possible. So far blogging has become a happy part of my daily routine and I hope to keep it up for 2017, which will be my first official blogging year! 

Side note: 

It hasn’t even been three complete months since I started this blog and I have obtained over 150 followers and ended 2016 with over 1,000 views. That is insanity! Thank you to all of you that are reading this. Your support for my thoughts and musings make me so happy. I can’t tell you how much appreciation for you all I hold in my heart. This blog has given me so much confidence, hope, and a sense of true strength and pride in my life that is quickly changing my self-image. I have so much hope for doing great things here in the future. This has definitely been the highlight of my year in 2016. Thank you!

Writing: 

I am so lazy when it comes to writing the books swimming inside my mind and that needs to change. I vow to finish a first draft of Mimpi (a book that is so far an idea I can’t wait to flesh out) and do some editing and extra chapters for my novel that is mostly completed Confessions of A Teenage Writer which you can check out on Wattpad here.

If all goes well, I also hope to either complete my novel Dark Amnesia (my failed NaNoWriMo project …sigh… I got 15,000 words completed though 😊) or work on my other novel idea Cursed a retelling that has my heart soaring. 

However, I’m not just going to have these New Years writing hopes up and not completing them. I need an actual plan of action to stick with daily or I will not complete it. So, I have to write for at least 1 hour every day (unless I’m really sick or swamped with homework or something really exciting is happening taking up time… can’t be too hard on myself… life happens) and I must stick with it or else punishment! What punishment? I don’t know, yet.. leave your ideas in the comments below! 

Poetry: 

I love poetry. I love to read it and I love to write it. I simply wish to read more poetry and write more poetry in 2017. When I get the poetic vibes, I will promise myself to write and post a poem here on the blog even if it’s a second blog post that day. I can never get enough poetry!

College: 

I hope to get straight A’s for my next semester in college. I am a Professional Writing major at Woodbury University and I did well my first semester, all A’s and B’s, but I want to push myself a bit further and try to get all A’s if I can. Writing is my passion and I should be doing more to learn all I can about the field, utilizing all I can at college, to continue to evolve in the field I love. 

Exercise: 

I hate to exercise, but I need to do it to get healthy again. I do not want to live the rest of my life sedentary. I do not want to live the rest of my life stiff and uncomfortable. So, exercise needs to be a priority. I promise to myself to exercise at least once a week (it really should be daily, but baby steps). I hopefully will be doing a mixture of cardio and yoga (I have no flexibility and at 18 that needs to change). This goal needs to be completed for the sake of being a healthier and happier me. 

Snacking 

I have a major problem with snacking too often with very unhealthy foods. With the aim to be healthier inside and out I hope to reduce the amount of times I snack during the day and to eat healthier foods like mixed nuts/fruits and vegetables, instead of chocolates and bread (I eat way too much bread). This is another goal that needs to happen before I go down a path in my life that I do not wish to go on. 

Events: 

I want to see and do more things this year. I want to go to author events, see a concert, go to the circus, watch a play, visit the Queen Mary (during Holloween or Christmas), I want to visit little corners of my local area that I have heard about but haven’t seen. I want to become a mini explorer! It would be so cool to see more of the culture and uniqueness of my local area that I haven’t gone to because I never made it a point to do so. Not this year! Wonder and excitement is something that I both need and want to have in my life. 

Little things: 

I hope to do little things for my family and those around me to make each day a little bit easier and brighter for those I love. No mater if it’s washing dishes without being asked, or just being there to listen to someone who needs to be heard, I want to be someone who is supportive to those around me. 

General Positivity!

I hope to keep the meantality of seeing the brighter parts of life and to fight to decrease the darker parts. I hope to never be complacent and to spread hope and peace whenever I can. I hope to be kind and compassionate to everyone (you never know how the other half lives). I hope to decrease quick judgements and to see the good and the bad as part of being human. I hope to go with the flow and not get upset and angry when things don’t go the way I hope. As is said, when one door closes another one opens. I hope to never loose sight of the person that I wish to be and to continue to work towards being a better person all around. I also hope to stay honest, even when it’s hard to be sometimes. I want to do more to help create a more compassionate world, but in order to do this I must start with who I am. 
I am so grateful for all the good and bad that has transpired in my life. Celebrating every small victory and the hope of doing some good to make a better 2017! Thank you for reading. What are your New Years resolutions? What are your hopes and dreams for yourself in 2017?

-Till next time!